Melissa Joan Hart has mom guilt every single day, it eats away at you
Melissa Joan Hart recently sat down with Us Weekly to be interviewed for their MOMS Video segment. Melissa is mom to three sons aged 10, eight and four and is currently the spokesperson for LiveHealth Online. LiveHealth Online is a paid app that gives people virtual access to doctors through video appointments. I can think of about four friends who should never know about this service because they’d spend their kids tuition on online doctors every time they get a hang nail. Anyway, Melissa talked to Us Weekly about her ever-present Mom Guilt and how she thinks a messy house is a sign you love your kids.
Melissa Joan Hart’s cleaning philosophy: Why bother!?
“I have a sign in my house that says ‘please pardon the mess, my children are making memories,’” the mom of Mason, 10, Braydon, 8, and Tucker, 4 (with musician husband Mark Wilkerson), told Us Weekly Video. “I think that’s important to remember. They’re only little once, and there’ll be some day where I’m not picking up Legos and Silly Putty isn’t stuck to my couch and I can actually have a clean house. But those are the days that I’ll miss my kids.”
The 40-year-old spokeswoman for LiveHealth Online also got real about mom guilt. “I have mom guilt that I’m here right now and I didn’t put my kids on the school bus … I didn’t spend enough time with this one… didn’t pack a healthy-enough lunch. I threw away some toys that they love,” the former Melissa & Joey actress admitted. “You really have this guilt every single day, and it eats away at you that you’re not a good person and you can’t do it right.”
Melissa said she is against her kids being on social media but is ok with them playing on iPads. She likes it when they play Minecraft because she wants them to be architects. I am totally down with her house-cleaning excuse. My house is a mess because I am a terrible housekeeper. However, I fully intend to tell people from now on that the reason there is two-year old Jello stuck to my couch cushion is because I was just too busy enjoying my children’s youth, thankyouverymuch.
As for Mom Guilt, I don’t know… why is this a question that always has to be asked? Obviously it’s a problem that no one asks about Dad Guilt. However, it seems like society has swung around the other end on Mom Guilt to the point of ennobling it. As if guilt is yet another weapon in the Mom Wars: what you feel guilty about, how much guilt makes you a better mom, etc. It just seems like one more thing for us to quantify. Melissa emphasized a few times how fleeting our kids youth is and that they’ll be gone before we know it so we should put everything else aside to enjoy it. It’s like we spend so much time trying to convince ourselves that we have to sop up every moment of their youth only to kill those memories by telling ourselves that we will mess the whole thing up. At what point are we allowed to enjoy being parents?
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